Have you ever learned something from someone who never knew they were teaching? I have. Women are more powerful and more impactful than we give ourselves credit for. Case in point: An old friend of mine once simply shared a few minutes with me about how having a morning changed her life. And it ended up changing mine, too.
If you think about it, most of our mornings are rushed, and partly because society has taught us that that's how mornings are supposed to be. We pine after the image of a coffee to go in hand, a fresh and quick makeup routine, a clean breakfast bar to grab on our way out the door—a fast-paced morning means productivity, ambition and success.
But does it?
My friend probably doesn't remember that conversation we had, but she had such an impact on the way I see our mornings now, even years later. I invest time and creativity into building our home and creating functional spaces, but we have to be purposeful about the time we find to dwell in it.
Mornings are golden for our little party of three these days. We wake up together, we somehow organically orchestrate this hand off between the two of us as we get ready for work and balance Cash on our hips and Boone under our feet. Coffee brews in the kitchen, James makes the breakfast, I prepare the house for our nanny...
It's the moments in between the to-dos that matter. Cash and I choose our oils for the diffuser like we choose his outfit for the day. He tolerates my agonizing over his lost socks because he gets to hold his immunity roller on the changing table, and he knows dad's eggs are up next. James plants kisses on Cash's cheeks in passing and never fails to find the very moment I'm pulling on my jeans to make sure my buns are still there. Yup, still there.
When I realized that wellness could be the center for our revolving mornings—from our spiritual awareness, mental preparedness for the day and taking care of our physical being—our lives became better for it. I am a better mom and wife for it. I’m present and soaking up every last minute before I close the front door behind me on my way to work.
All because someone took the time to tell me the importance of a morning.
Coming back to these minutes of clarity in the midst of life, both in the struggle and the triumph, usually stems from community. Much like how this revelation began, simply gathering with those who lift you up is at the root of soul refreshing moments.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Hebrews 10:24–25)
I’m thankful for the partner I have in James, because without him and without divine intervention, these mornings wouldn’t be possible. I’m sure of it. I am asked about and happen to share more about parts of our wellness journey as a constantly traveling trio, so I decided to create a space where our community can come back for these little inspirations. Here are some of my favorite morning settings for our haven.